fine, if i can’t be a real boy then i’ll be a totally unreal one
and i’ll get a pet stegosaurus named Keanu Reeves’ Left Kidney and we’ll fly off in our x-wing fighter and have epic adventures in space.
“that doesn’t make sense,” you might say. “a stegosaurus can’t fit into an x-wing.”
yeah, well, it’s bigger on the inside.
i built it that way.
all that penis-growth spam in my e-mail.
they mock me.
go ahead and change your name. new names are much easier to adjust to than pronouns. my family uses my name about 99% of the time now, whereas they’re still only about 50% with pronouns.
nah, don’t give up. my family was the same, but then they completely changed after I came out to them. as my mother said, it’s different when it’s your own kid.
I’m 23 and have been on T for two years and I still get charged child fare on things sometimes lololol.
Though recently someone thought I was about 18, which is an improvement from 13.
i don’t understand this at all, because I have the opposite worry. :/ because, well, most people are straight, so chances are that any girl attracted to you is straight and thus seeing you as male rather than as a fetish, which would be less probable with a guy who is statistically likely to be straight and if so the only reason he would be attracted to you would be as a fetish, and OP EXPLAIN YOURSELF I AM CONFUSED
1. Two things about the ‘increased cancer risks’; either:
a) they result from overdosing, whereby the excess T is converted to estrogen and thus increase risk of breast cancer and other estrogen-related cancers, which won’t happen if you don’t overdose, so don’t do that
b) they result from your cancer risks rising to match those of cis men, who are generally more prone to health problems (hence the average male lifespan being shorter than the average female one).
2. Regarding liver damage, I chatted with a trans guy about this and he knows severely alcoholic trans guys who are on T and who still have perfectly healthy livers. My doctor too says that in all the thousands of trans people he has treated, none of them have ever developed liver problems as a result of HRT. It’s just a theoretical risk that they have to warn people about so they won’t get sued just in case it happens.
If someone won’t hire you because you’re trans, you probably wouldn’t have really liked working for them in the first place. Such has been my experience, both with being trans and being disabled.
I think the OP meant in comparison with if they had been cis, whereby it wouldn’t likely have led to an unenjoyable working experience. Lots of decent people / good employers might be transphobic. Like for instance I think probably 95% of employers here wouldn’t hire a trans person, but I highly doubt that 95% of employers here suck and are bad people, because transphobia is usually the result of ignorance more than anything else.
i feel majorly threatened by misogyny
i feel threatened by misandry, though sometimes i take bitter self-hating delight in it, like a recent exchange with my mother about how men suck which i think i actually initiated because of a thing we heard on the radio
i feel threatened even by just regular, decent feminists who just happen to be very passionate and angry, because certain feminism buzzwords are triggers for me and i really wish it wasn’t so, because nowadays i can’t even browse feminist sites without my pulse racing in anticipation of danger
i feel threatened by christian books like ‘a biblical portrait of marriage’ from 1996 currently sitting next to me on the study table because my parents have been using it for years as a study guide for their pre-marital counselling course in church, and i flipped through and got very disturbed at the condescendingly pleasant misogyny and how it practically paves the way for emotional abuse despite claiming not to, and it prompted this post
and i feel like i should say something about that book to my parents except that those discussions never go well for my mental health and i might cry
which is a big thing because it’s really hard to cry on T.
i’m not actually that upset at the moment (I’m going to watch Community); just kind of sad, but also somewhat hopeful that things will be better in the next generation.
Maybe I should add another x. Hi I’m Maxx.
…I actually know a trans guy named Maxx. :|
lol this was mine. 8|
Murderous depression and being trans sometimes mean waking up crying at 3 AM because you know very well that one of the biggest reasons you started HRT was because the thought of living in that body was unbearable. Blind panic at 3 AM because doesn’t this mean that I’m not going anywhere with purpose, it just means I was distancing myself from the body that made me want to throw up; since I am not happy now, four-ish months into transition, not only not happy but not really less repulsed by my body, what hope is there? I pushed off the docks knowing I couldn’t be happy that way, and sometimes fear that I gave up what little I had for the distant chance of being happy later comes and drowns me.
While I was crying, I even briefly considered taking a break from HRT, but I KNOW that I can’t be happy like this, and taking time off would only prolong unnecessary pain.
I can’t even speak. I hope this pain is unnecessary. I hope I am who I am. I hope this moment of suicidality passes.
this too will pass
four months is nothing
you’ve come this far
look to the future, always, even if there’s nothing but the vaguest possibility of happiness
and grab that
and hold on.
- white people are not the bad guys
- Christian people are not the bad guys
- Republicans are not the bad guys
- straight people are not the bad guys
- cisgender people are not the bad guys
- rich people are not the bad guys
- men are not the bad guys
- racist, bigoted, homophobic, ignorant, selfish, and / or rude people are the bad guys
dear social justice bloggers
all right, look:
I’m a pretty fucking privileged person.
but when I hear someone who does not have the same privilege as me—for instance, a person of color—say “ugh WHITE PEOPLE” I don’t get offended. you know why?
because I know it’s not all about me.
I don’t need anyone to put in a disclaimer for me saying “but not all white people are bad” and “it’s just the racist ones, not everyone else!” because when people of color express their frustrations with racial constructions and their cultural environment, I’ve put in enough research and utilized a little empathy to try and see things from their perspective. I understand that “white people” is not “you, specific white person, pale-skinned devil and probably KKK member” but the institution of whiteness and the practices and individuals perpetuating it.
if you need someone to tack on a “but not all of you are like that!!1!!” when talking about privilege and oppression, then you are hijacking the conversation from them and making it not about their frustrations and struggles with a toxic society, but your feelings and fragile understanding of the obstacles that others face.
and seriously, for the last time: it’s not about you. not everything is. you are merely a cog in the larger system, the game of life—the game which is rigged—and you just happen to reap some of the benefits.
ok wait, question: what about in situations when you are part of the minority group in question and still request that fellow members of said minority group tack on the “but not all of them are like that!!!” qualifier when insulting the privileged? Because I seem to do that a lot, and it’s not out of a desire to trivialize frustrations and pain that I experience too, but rather out of a desire for, well, linguistic accuracy and an eradication of generalizations. [/aspie]
someone should start a blog called ‘socialjusticekittens’ and post nothing but adorable photos of kittens under social justice tags
so that angry people scrolling through the tags looking for wank will be unexpectedly disarmed by cute
and start smiling instead as they feel quiet, peaceful joy slowly rising within them
and fights will be more easily resolved
and social justice will be achieved without arguments or drama or conflict or cis scum dying
and people will start being excellent to each other
and remember the original purpose of the Internet, i.e. a place to post photos of cats
i think this will help to make the world a nicer place.
unless of course you don’t like kittens. :(