aaskew42

senor-bizarro:

dickcummingsforpres:

In all honesty? You probably already were a transtrender.

Also: if you believe everyone unconditionally, this makes you very VERY naive. One of these days someone may be 100% trolling for attention and you stick up for them and then you find out they were fake…what then?

Then I’ll accept it and move on with life. What’s the alternative - to be a jerk to everyone I meet, assuming the worst of them? What harm comes from sticking up for what I believe is right? If they’re trolls out to deceive, that’s on them, not me. It’s not my responsibility. My only job in life is to not be a dick. If other people are, it shouldn’t reflect on me.

closetedtransethnic:

no longer will i be a black jew i identify as a white episcopalian now haha look at all the privilege i just gained +10 hp

sassy-sherlock-holmes:

I identify as trans*dimensional 

omg thisss XD

speaking as a cisethnic person, the transethnic tag is being unintentionally hilarious.

and this is perfect: http://sugarncyanide.tumblr.com/post/25598934331/prince-koyangi

theworldismypoopjoke:

aaskew42:

theworldismypoopjoke:

except 

gender = male doesn’t make any fucking sense

jesus it just makes it worse because you guys are the ones who are always screaming “gender is in the head, sex is in the pants” and it’s like

wow are you fucking stupid, because i feel sorry for stupid, you probably ended up sticking it in his eye and blinding him.

Really? I haven’t heard any trans people screaming that for a long, long time.

Really? Because if you look here you’ll see how there are nearly two million results for that phrase.

“you guys” =/= “Chaz Bono and random people who are almost definitely not part of the Tumblr trans community”

Also, right up there in your results is a tranarchism.com article that challenges the phrase. 

theworldismypoopjoke:

except 

gender = male doesn’t make any fucking sense

jesus it just makes it worse because you guys are the ones who are always screaming “gender is in the head, sex is in the pants” and it’s like

wow are you fucking stupid, because i feel sorry for stupid, you probably ended up sticking it in his eye and blinding him.

Really? I haven’t heard any trans people screaming that for a long, long time.

…and how do you know this person wasn’t a trans girl?

I tried to kill myself when I was eight. And when I was eighteen, and again when I was twenty.

Then when I was twenty-one, it got better.

hold on. <3

1. Name: ANAKIN MCFLY. it is my internet name and thus the only one that matters to you internet people. it is also how you will recognise my main Tumblr account should you ever encounter it.
2. Age: 23
3. Height: 168 cm (5’6)
4. Weight: 47 kg (103 lbs). 48.5 kg (107 lbs) on a good day. I have tried many methods to gain weight. Nothing works. It’s depressing.
5. Relationship status: Forever alone. At least for a while. Fictional people are there for me in my head when I’m lonely. We hang out at Sarang Base and watch the Earthrise.
6. Birthday: November 8
7. Favorite color: Depending on the context: green or blue for stuff. Orange for lighting and photographs. Neutrals for decor. Dark reds and purples for fruit.
8. Favorite bands: I rarely pay attention to what bands play what stuff. I like individual songs, and based on my music collection I have no favourites but a disturbing amount of Disney songs and Britney Spears.
9. Last song listened: This is a good question. ‘Forty-two’ doesn’t seem an adequate answer.
10. Favorite movie: Back to the Future
11. Last movie watched: Mean Girls
12. Favorite book: The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy
13. Last book read: Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix. I’m doing a HP rereading marathon. I’m now halfway through Half-Blood Prince.
14. # of siblings: One. He’s a post-modern hipster, because “hipsters are so mainstream”.
15. # of pets: None. Had a few, but they’re all dead now.
16. Best school subject: School… don’t talk to me about school.
17. Mac or PC? PC. I’m rebellious and counterculture that way. I hate Macs despite being a web designer and into graphic design. I have been ostracised for this before. :|
18. Cell phone type: Android
19. Current shirt color: Navy
20. Gamer? Yes, but then it sucks up my soul and I need to pull away or I’ll get nothing done.
21. Day or night? Night.
22. Summer or winter? THERE ARE NO SEASONS IN SINGAPORE IT IS JUST HOT AND RAINS ALL THE TIME
23. Most-visited website? Tumblr, LiveJournal, IMDb
24. Celebrity crush: this is classified information.
    
25. Biggest turn on: pretending to be someone else.

I don’t know how politically correct this opinion is at the moment, but I’ve been feeling a growing discomfort with how words and labels are being increasingly stripped of meanings. And I… don’t like that, even in cases where it may be benefiting me.

I don’t mind redefinitions. That I can deal with. If, in the instance of trans people for instance, we redefine ‘woman’ to ‘person who identifies as a woman’, rather than ‘person declared to be a girl at birth’, that’s all good. It’s still consistent, it’s relatively objective, it’s something that can be standardised, there’s a comprehensive distinction between ‘girl’ and ‘not girl’, it’s something that can still mean something and thus be meaningfully communicated.

But then how far should individual claims of identity count? If a gay man from a heavily religious background decides that being gay is wrong, whereupon he marries a woman and declares himself to be straight despite still being exclusively attracted to men, does that then make him straight? Wouldn’t that then, by definition, make ex-gay people right when they claim that someone can change their sexual orientation, if someone who used to be gay is now straight because he declared it as such? Shouldn’t who he’s actually sexually attracted to still count for something?

What about for an ‘ex-trans’ person who likewise declares themselves ‘cured’ because they detransitioned or refused transition due to external pressure and continue to struggle heavily with gender dysphoria? Are they then ‘really’ their birth gender because they believe that being trans is wrong and trans identities don’t really exist? Are they then ‘really’ cis?

Is identity-policing always bad? I respect the right for people to identify themselves, but when it comes to objective discourse, standards seem necessary. I identify as gay, because I’m almost exclusively attracted to men, and any vague attractions to women are minor enough to be negligible; but objectively I might be considered bisexual, and I’m fine with that - in fact, I’m actively in favour of that, in the name of consistent definitions - as long as it doesn’t intrude on how I describe myself.

I miss the time when words meant things. When ‘male’, ‘female’, ‘genderqueer’, ‘genderfluid’ referred to specific, distinct groups of people. When straight people were people who were sexually attracted to the opposite sex; when gay people were sexually attracted to the same sex; when asexual people were sexually attracted to neither; when ‘cat’ referred to furry four-legged felines, and didn’t include human otherkin…

when it didn’t matter what you wanted so much as what you are, with definitions that might evolve with time to more appropriate, accurate forms in order to better suit human diversity, rather than to degenerate into meaningless collections of letters whose meanings no one could clearly define or agree on and were sometimes outright contradictory, to the point where a person’s individual definitions of terms are often first necessary before any effective communication could take place.

I miss consistency. I miss sometimes making small sacrifices in accuracy for consistency. Not all cats have four legs due to accidents or mutations or whatever, and not all cats are furry, but that doesn’t make me want to change the definition of ‘cat’ to ‘felines of varying furriness that have around four legs or so’, because then it starts to lose meaning.

And that scares me. Because I love language. I like words. And I like words that mean things. And when I have those definitions, I can use those words and play with those words and let new meanings emerge from them that can best communicate what I want to say. Or create new words, where necessary. And I don’t ever want to lose the beauty of that to a bland, meaningless mess of unoffensive genericity.

dirtyxygirl:

I don’t “want” to be a girl.  I AM a girl, and it took me a while to really get that.  Other than that, I totally relate.  I haven’t had any surgeries yet, but two years of hormones along with a little diet and exercise have made significant changes.  I heartily recommend hitting the gym hard.  Build the curves you don’t have.

How do you differentiate the two?

If trans girls are girls who were assigned male at birth, then people who want to be girls are… ? Or do such people not exist because wanting to be something automatically make you that something? Or does this differ among trans people, such that if you claim you want to be something, then you’re likewise automatically not that something? Such that, for instance, you would consider the OP to not be a girl, since they claim they want to be one?

/honestly curious

anxietymachine:

bananapeppers:

jacksonkillah:

edman93:

If studying-lgbtq-people inboxes you asking to take part in questions about LGBTQ people “to help her understand” DO NOT DO IT. It is Sophie M Herold, the girl from Germany who attacks LGBTQ people and outs them to others. She is transphobic, homophobic and one of the sickest people I know. And now she’s back with a cunning new plan to get your NAME, ADDRESS, BIRTH DATE, AND PHOTO.

This girl is dangerous, and for some reason is allowed to keep making new tumblr accounts. We’ve raised awareness before and it helped, so lets do it again before she puts another persons life in danger. She collects your information and gives it out to others, she has sent letters to peoples parents outing them, other people have gotten hurt because of her. Yes, hurt.

Even if we can’t stop her again, get this message out and stop others giving her information etc.

And Sophie, you should know by now not to fuck with me again, wrong move, buddy.

SIGNAL BOOST.

Y’all know I don’t normally signal boost, but this is so important. This girl is literally putting peoples’ lives in danger.

unclear if she’s in Germany or Virginia. she browses tumblr for LGBTQ people’s (especially lesbians’ and trans people’s) personal info in order to out as many people to their families, peers, employers, etc. as possible. if anyone contacts you about participating in a survey about LGBTQ people, ESPECIALLY if they ask for personal info, exercise caution. google any “real” name they provide and/or the username under which they contacted you; report suspicious tumblr accounts to support@tumblr.com. if they say it’s research being conducted by/for a student, academic body, organization, or business, they need to supply details about the survey research. don’t do any survey whose conductor, purpose, process, OR confidentiality is unclear or questionable, and don’t do any survey by Sophie M. Herold or Sophie von Bayron. the about section at now-defunct studying-lgbtq-people is clearly homophobic and transphobic:

studying-lgbtq-people:

Hello!

My name is Sophie Miriam Herold. In the past, I have contacted LGBTQ people around the world and pointed out to them how wrong their behaviour (being LGBTQ) is. Then, I started collecting names, addresses, photos and other personal information about them and sold them to anti-LGBTQ-organisations.

Now, it is time to take a more direct approach and find out what is really going on inside LGBTQ individuals.

That’s why I am asking LGBTQ people around the world to participate in my series of tests.

I want to experiment with gay people to find out how they react to

-cold, heat

-physical pressure

-different levels of psychological stress

-different chemical substances.

I just want to find out if LGBTQ people react like normal people.

Everyone who is LGBTQ can participate, no matter if you are British, German, Canadian etc., no matter if you are White, African-American, Asian etc., no matter if you are 18 or 28 years old – you just have to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer.

Depending on the amount of people who want to participate, the studies will start in fall 2012 or early 2013.

During the first phase of this test you will receive a questionary with questions regarding your past. In the second phase, you will participate in different role playing games (via skype) to find out how you react in everyday life situations. These skype sessions will be recorded. In the third phase, you will be invited to a laboratory close to your hometown to undergo the chemical and physical testing.

This study will be absolutely free for LGBTQ people.

If you are interested or know a LGBTQ person who wants to participate, please email me your

-full name

-full address

-birth date and age

-latest photo of yourself

-and describe yourself in a few words and why you want to participate in the testing.

Please send this message to:

sophiemherold@aol.de

Thank you very much for your cooperation.

My name is Sophie Miriam Herold, and I mean you no harm. I am just being curious.

Big ol’ bag of NOPE.
signal boost. 

…is it bad that my initial response was to see this as a challenge? :|

and then I read her actual about section
and now I just
I don’t even
what is this

roddylaughingalonewithshittypuns:

I don’t really know why your choices would make you an asshole or a hypocrite, as long as you’re not pushing them on everyone else and screaming ” I COSPLAY AND YOU DRINK AND HAVE SEX THEREFORE I AM BETTER THAN YOU AND YOU DESERVE TO BE RAPED.” 

because you’d be an asshole no matter what your gender identity is? I don’t understand. can someone explain this to me?

I need to stop de-anoning on things because it might lose me followers but I really wanted to address this because I got triggered by the accusation of rape apologism:

1) that’s kind of what I meant - how on earth did you get from the OP of “I’d like the ability to be sexually conservative” to “I am better than you and you deserve to be raped”? Even as an extreme? srsly?

2) I never push my choices on anyone, because I firmly believe that everyone has the right to live how they like and do what they want, even if others may disagree, as long as it doesn’t hurt others (and sometimes if it does, because some hurts are sadly unavoidable; heck, loads of people disagree with me being gay and/or trans, and I’m sure at least a few radfems are hurt by it, but I’d still like the ability to continue being myself.)

But sometimes I wish I also had the ability to actively consider some things wrong without feeling like a bad person. For instance - I think incest is wrong, even though I wouldn’t stop consenting adults who wanted to engage in it, because that’s none of my business. I know they aren’t hurting anyone and all that, but it *still* feels wrong to me, and despite my best efforts I have trouble overriding that instinctual reaction, it usually just leaves me triggered and shaky when I try, and I hate that it makes me an intolerant judge-y person.

This is especially so because it makes me mad when people go on about how they “disagree with homosexuality” but still have gay friends and wouldn’t stop gay people from being gay. And I realise I’m effectively doing the same thing, and it makes me hate myself and feel like even more of a hypocrite.

Whereas if I were straight and cis, there would be much less for me to feel hypocritical about in that area, because my identity wouldn’t be considered wrong by the majority of people in the first place.

3) there’s also the usual conflict in the LGBT community between the assimilationists and the… whatever the opposing party is called… where the former just want to be seen as no different from anyone else and would rather blend in and live quiet unobtrusive lives, while the other group scorns the notion of becoming like the cishetero normies and would rather be visibly and radically queer; I fall more into the former group, because I don’t like having my identity be used as a political statement or to define how I live my life, and I’ve received direct/indirect flak for that.

4) I also struggle very heavily with slut-shaming, because most of my instincts would like me to do that, a lot, and violently so. For years I’ve harboured secret/not-so-secret resentment towards people who have lots of sex and enjoy it, and I think a large part of that originates from jealousy at how I can’t do that myself because of extreme dysphoria - still a virgin, occasionally want to have sex, but even in a hypothetical situation in which there is mutual attraction and we both want to do it, I’m still not sure that I’d be able to without feeling completely shitty and dysphoric about it. So basically it’s just selfish pettiness here. But it has very real effects on my thoughts and reactions to things, which also make me feel like a bad person. I went through a phase around puberty in which I strongly believed that all (cis) men should be castrated so they wouldn’t be able to have sex, and as a bonus it would greatly alleviate the rape problem. I was pretty vocal about this, too; it’s a wonder my teachers didn’t send me off for counselling. :\

5) another huge source of guilt - I don’t think I can be sex-positive. I know and have been told many times that sex-positivity *is* all about choices and the freedom for everyone to make their own choice. I agree with that on principle, but for me it’s similar to how many people who are all for gender equality refuse to call themselves feminists because of its history of transphobia and so on. In this case, I have yet to read a single sex-positive article or visit a similar site without being triggered in some way. I once encountered a piece with girls waxing lyrical about their vaginas (with photos), and I had a panic attack and couldn’t stop shaking for a few hours. So - sex-positivity has a lot of negative connotations for me, and I have problems associating myself with or honestly lending my support for it. Now whenever I see something about sex-positivity, I run the other way. Have been bashed for this too.

6) so basically my guilt is not about my choices, but about my thoughts. i’m sorry. hope this helped explain things. thanks for reading.